Tamandua Kinbaku

I do not have any prior experience in kinbaku/in BDSM and I am unsure if I suit as a rope bottom.

You do not need experience, certain skills or a certain body type to bottom for rope since the whole thing can be pretty adaptable.
In fact, many of my clients are people wishing to explore something new, or who are looking to explore a fantasy they have yet to realise.
Visiting a professional ensures a more controlled environment where you can focus on the experience without the pressure of onlookers or relationship dynamics.

I will help you so that we can decide together on how to best make our meeting feel safe and enjoyable for you, during pre-negotiation and as we go.

I welcome, and have experience with, clients of various of body types, genders and backgrounds.
The most important prerequisite is that you are 18+, and that you have positive and healthy intentions.

What does kinbaku/shibari feel like?

The answer will vary a lot depending on who you ask.

Sensations depend greatly on the tie, and it’s intentions. And of course, how your unique body and mind responds to that particular tie and situation.
Everyone will perceive the sensations that arise a bit differently. Therefor individual needs and preferences in terms of how a tie is adapted, and how a scene plays can also vary.

Most rope bottoms appreciate the feeling of being in a passive flow state of surrender, allowing ones body to be manipulated with great attention and care from the rope top/rigger.
A very common description is that when tied, you feel both vulnerable and strong, simultaneously.
Trust and surrender are themes fundamental to this experience.

Indeed, kinbaku can be full of contradicting feelings,
such as sweetness and harshness, arousal and torment, intensity and comfort, or to feel floaty and heavy, at the same time.

Kinbaku is often categorised as being of tormenting style or caressing style, although most of my sessions take place on a spectrum rather than chosing one approach or the other;

For some, pushing through a challenging and tormenting moment is a big part of the experience.
Tormenting style of rope, known as semenawa, can be sadomasochistic in amazingly complex ways, and on every part of the scale of intensity imaginable.
Some people love torment in a ‘truly’ masochistic way, while others connect with the suffering on a emotional headspace level, rather than finding pleasure in the sensations themselves.

That said, many lovers of rope prefer a tying session to be of a softer sensual nature.
In this case, a more comfortable tying style avoiding pain is chosen.
While kinbaku can be used in the most creative ways to create ultimate experiences of restrain, it can also be of caressing nature, focusing on finer sensations and teasing while the rope runs across the skin and squeezes the body into position.


When suspension is involved there is at least some level of physical intensity.
You may feel your breath somewhat compressed or even pain as rope dig in under your weight! Although, rope pain feels very different from that of whipping or biting for example, as the pain comes from slow deep pressure, with different spots on the body being differently more or less sensitive to it. The closest thing one could compare it to is to that of an intense massage, but coupled with being restrained through being moved and “locked” into positions.
Unlike most other forms of bondage, in shibari/kinbaku the ropes are firm, made of jute fiber which has a certain bite when under tension. But once you relax into the tie body and ropes melt into each other in a blissful seamless way.

What about safety?

There are some precautions to take going into a session, both for the physical safety of you and emotional safety of both of us. When we meet I will go through some basic things to look out for and keep in mind to avoid injury before we attempt anything.

Different types of ties carry different risk levels and it is perfectly fine to prefer a low(er) risk level!
The most likely serious injury that may happen in kinbaku/shibari is radial nerve damage via heavy compression of the arm.
Certain ties are known to carry this risk while others are very unlikely to.
Although risks are considerably lower when tying with someone very knowledgeable, some risk always remains, as bodies can be unpredictable.
Radial nerve injury can result in limited ability to move ones hand or thumb for a few hours (mild cases) up to several weeks (extreme, rare cases).
Being in a suspension with a lot of weight loaded on the arms, while the hands are tied behind the back, contains the highest likelihood of triggering this sort of issue by far. Nonetheless, it is a greatly popular type of tie, and many people accept the risk in their wish to experience it. Doing so requires extra responsibility of checking the function of your hands during the session and communicating if something seems abnormal.
If we agree on such a session, I will show you how to do these hand checks.
When noted in good time the issue can typically be easily addressed by shifting the weight or adjusting the ropes on the arm before any actual injury occurs.

Apart from physical safety we will also have a proper talk around personal limits and boundaries in general - what you would want or not want to happen during. Worries, no-go zones for touching or being tied and so forth.
Pre-negotiation happens over email or phone.
When you arrive for the session we will have a conversation in person to confirm anything important, and check in how everything feels in that moment before proceeding with anything.

Despite taking good consideration and doing my best to keep you safe, agreeing to be tied or doing a BDSM scene with someone no matter if it is a professional or in private always comes with a certain risk!
As a consenting adult you agree to some degree of risk, and to communicate both before and during the session if something feels wrong.
If you agree to sessioning with me you agree to RACK – risk aware consensual kink.
No person, no matter experience level can with 100% certainty ensure nothing will go wrong. But with clear communication and awareness, the risk becomes significantly smaller!

Do you accept people with trauma?

If you suffer from PTSD/CPTSD and you suspect a kinbaku session could trigger trauma to resurface I ask you to not book a session.
I am not a trained trauma specialist and therefore can not accept the responsibility of handling such a situation.

If you know there is a probable chance, I ask you to not book a session for the safety of the both of us, as it is a big responsibility to hold space for such an event for a stranger.

If you have specific triggers that you think can be avoided, please communicate it in your booking request, so that we can discuss whether it seems reasonable to proceed,

 

Does the session have to be of sexual nature?

It doesn’t have to be, but it definitely can be!

For the majority of people who want to be tied up is an erotic fantasy on some level.
It is up to you communicate whether you want the session to be of certain erotic intention. And most importantly, in what sense the rigger (that would be me in this case), should engage with you in that context.
For example, I never tie, expose or touch certain intimate areas of the body without explicit consent, and prior discussion around it.

Plenty of clients prefer some more distance in terms of intimate touch and sensual themes. They may still appreciate touch and affection of a platonic nature, by for example staying away from erogenous areas of the body.
In the end, it all depends on what seems right to you individually, and what we can agree on between us.

There are possibilities to request additional fetishistic elements to a session is one wishes.
Common examples being blindfolding, using clamps, whips and other toys, to be undressed, gagged, trampled on, or have candlewax pured onto the skin.
But it is also very common to prefer to stick to the tying only.


We negotiate these aspects beforehand and you can always ask to revoke consent once the session started, in case you change your mind. 

Does it cost extra if additional elements like mentioned above are included?

This depends what it is but yes, sometimes! Tell me about it in your email and I can give an answer.

 

Can you take photos during?

If you ask before the session I may snap a couple with your personal camera or phone for you. But I don’t recommend that picture taking should be in focus.

A real photoshoot is a different undertaking with challenges to consider, not usually present during a regular session.
If you are a content creator wishing to work with me to make content, this needs to be discussed as a separate project. 

Can I bring a friend to watch?

I sometimes accept couples that want to experience together, but I don’t allow an audience. This is simply because an outer gaze tends to be rather distracting, and for most it is easier to surrender to the experience and fully appreciate it while not being observed.
If you are worried about going alone let us talk about options to make you feel more secure.  

How can I vet you?

I’m public with my practice. There are many models out there who have worked or sessioned with me, as well as other professionals (rope teachers, organisers) you could reach out to if you want a second opinion.
This would likely be less biased than for me choosing people to vet for me myself. 

What about aftercare

If you need any particular type of aftercare please let me know.
Some gentle touch or massage to settle back, sharing a moment of silence, and having a debriefing talk are some common activities people may appreciate to finish the session with before parting.
In the days that follow I can check in with you over mail - perhaps some thoughts or questions popped up you want to share.
Either way I am happy for feedback.
 

I want this! How do I book the session?

Send me an email through the contact page with a small introduction of yourself describing what you are interested in.
Some things that are good for me to know right from the start are:

- If you have prior experience in kinbaku or in other BDSM practices
-What attracts you to seeking out this session with me? What do you want to experience?
- Hard limits/things you do not want to experience during the session/potential fears or worries
- If you have any physical or medical issues that could be good for me to know beforehand.
Suggestions of dates and times you would be free for the session in Berlin

—— Current rates ——

For typically recommended lengths for a session. Longer can be discussed.

1 hour /250 €
1,5 h /300 €
2 hours /350 €

These are the rates for people with a stable income. If you are of low income and have trouble saving up for it, it is possible to get a 50€ discount.